Against My Own Sex
Marriage and Morals
The above quote may appear odd in light of my own entry today (NB: it should also be noted that the context of the quote is different from my entry but nevertheless, shares similiar assumptions). But there's a reason I have taken this quote to illustrate my point of view of the unruly and disappointing attitude of some members of my own sex. The background to my statement lies in the growing dissatisfaction men now have to deal with in the dating with the opposite sex. Due to the rising number of educated women, some men nowadays have turned to vilifying and demeaning the "characteristic" attitudes of "modern" women, especially in a modernistic affluent highly-educated society like Singapore, this ostentious "backlash" has produced some unimaginable social phenomena (e.g. more men marrying foreign brides, or going abroad to indulge in prostitution).
One particular thread has infuriated me. The incipient article is, first of all, a tabloid piece. Nobody should take it seriously, even if the women interviewed volunteered unfavourable comments on our fellow men. What seems undeniable unjustifiable are the following replies ("And I thought men and women are equal. If women can lose the ability to cook and clean, why can't we do the same with opening doors and carry bags.", "I agree, we should learn from our vietnamese counterpart and start smacking them womenfolk coz they think we're simply not tough enough"), in addition a picture that one can only say is the work of a misogynist and should be outrightly censured. There is something only so unspeakable about men who think or support such abject misconceptions about women that they deserve to be beaten for speaking up, even if what they say is unpleasurable to hear.
Men will do no better in listening to their own voices, and start refuting the absurb notions about women that conquer our struggle for traditional masculinity and patriarchy. Even if one were to accept the accounts about contemporary women challenging the traditional male dominated role in the family household, to only kick, whine and bicker about this "enmity" is a display of childishness and reckless derogation. If men were to wish to assuage their own fears, they can start by looking at themselves in the mirror and to question their unfounded beliefs about women today. That form of self-criticism will at least be a lot more constructive than applying deleterious labels on females in an attempt to allay their comments or pacify them altogether.